The quest for success is relentless. With so many of us competing to be the best in our field, it’s no wonder that we can often find ourselves slumped in despair feeling as though we aren’t ‘good enough’.
Today I’d like to share our tips for success. How we’ve achieved the happiness that we have today, and also how a change in our perspective has made a huge different to our lives.
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1. Success is relative.
Probably one of the most important things to realise is that success alters for each and every one of us depending on our own individual goals. For me, running 5km may be a huge achievement, whereas to someone else this may be a huge disappointment. For this reason alone, comparing our achievements to those of another person is only setting yourself up for failure. By becoming your own benchmark for motivation it’s likely that you’ll already be many steps closer to being content with what you’ve achieved.
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2. Accept that you will never be perfect
We know how easy it is to believe in perfection, but in all reality, that concept doesn’t exist. It’s definition is ever changing and for that reason can never be achieved. By accepting that you can only ever be the best version of you, and achieve only as far as your own limits, slowly that perfectionist inside of you will start embracing and enjoying what it’s like to be you.
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3. Choose role models that are attainable
If I am an academic, aspiring to be an athlete is forever going to leave my self esteem full of holes. Choose role models that are similar to yourself, with similar goals, similar interests and things that drive them. It’s okay to admire people for their personality traits, but never feel pressure to be that person. There’s so many people in the world that we can admire and learn from, but by accepting that we will only ever be ourselves, our whole perspective can change. And hey, there’s nothing wrong with being your own role model too.
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4. Without picking yourself apart, acknowledge changes that can enhance your life
We all have out downfalls, and that doesn’t make us bad people. But by openly acknowledging and admitting to those traits it gives us small goals to work towards. I know the elements of my personality that need improvements, and over time I’ve been able to take small steps to improve on those. Progress boost self esteem and can prove to be an incredibly rewarding experience. Plus, with change comes a lot of pride, and it’s awesome to be proud of yourself.
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5. Success doesn’t have to include money
You’re not alone if you equate success to wealth, but what so many of us fail to realise is that not all success equals money. And equally, money doesn’t bring happiness. The main thing that we should be aspiring to achieve as a result of success should be happiness. If pressure through our goals leads to unhappiness and stress, then the process is wrong. Establish what your version of success is, and don’t worry if that is different from your neighbour. As we know by now, success is relative; embrace that.
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6. It’s totally cool to be proud of who you are.
What’s the point in reaching success if you never give yourself the permission to embrace and enjoy it. Don’t be ashamed to openly admit to being proud of yourself. It’s not a case of being big-headed but instead an open celebration of your achievements. True family and friends should support and want to celebrate with you. Holding yourself in a high regard is awesome, it’s cool to respect yourself.
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What are your tips for success?